Hello Everybody! The topic of this post is a question that I tend to get a lot when having the first consultation with my couples. After we discuss all the details of how the invitations and additional stationery will be designed, printed, and embellished, there’s a question that normally pops up: “How do I tell my guests that children are not invited to the reception?” & honestly, it depends on your personality as a couple as to how to execute this daunting task. Really, it’s simple and it doesn’t cause as much drama as you think, but here are some easy ways to get through this.
1. List the names of the guests who are invited on the inner envelope.
Traditionally there’s an outer envelope and then there’s the inner envelope. The outer envelope’s purpose is to have the address and protect the inner envelope and the invitation with all it’s parts inside. You’d put “To: The Green Family” on the outer envelope, but on the inner envelope, you’d put “To: Mr. and Mrs Josh Green” so that the guests know that the invitation is only for Mr & Mrs. Green.
2. Place the names of who you invite to the reception on the RSVP card.
In most cases, the RSVP card has an “M” line (M stands for the first letter of your title: Mr. Mrs. Miss. Ms). Put the names of those who are invited to the reception on the M Line & say that there are “x” seats reserved in their name. This way you’re letting your guests know that you only have room for them and “x” amount of people at the reception.
3. Add an Insert.
There are some things that just don’t belong on the wedding invitation and some things that don’t belong on the RSVP card either. You may need to add an insert (about the size of a business card) to your invitations suite with additional information. The text may read something like “We’re delighted to have you share in our special day and we would love for everyone to be there. Our venue is only alotted for a certain number of guests and the reception is for our adult guests only.” This way, without putting anyone on blast you’re letting your guests know in the beginning that the little ones are not on the guest list.
Yes, it’s hard to have a wedding without children, mainly because most of your guests have children, BUT if you give your guests enough time to plan for a babysitter or to make arrangements you shouldn’t run into the issue of unhappy invitation recipients (This is part of the reason why it’s customary to send out the wedding invitations 2-3 months before the big day). There’s always going to be that one guest who’s going to call & ask why their baby can’t come to the wedding & at that point it’s up to you but at least you’ve covered all your bases first.