Good Afternoon! This week’s post is about how you can tell your guests that you and your fiancée are registered. I get this question a lot in the form of “Can we put our wedding registry at the bottom of the invitation?” or “Can we make sure to add that we’re registered at Dillard’s?” and the answer to both of those questions is Absolutely Not. So, now the question is… Well, How DO I tell my guests where we’re registered? & the answer is a little different from it used to be; say… about 25-30 years ago.
First Answer: It is tradition, that your aunts & bridesmaids & mom/soon to be mom-in-law would pass the word around as the time got closer to your bridal shower. That way the message was discrete, nobody got offended, & it didn’t look like you as a couple were *expecting* gifts from your wedding guests. Back then, people were a bit more easily offended & honestly, you still have a lot of folks today who “feel some type of way” if you were to say “Hey! You’re invited to my wedding! Oh, & by the way, if you want to get us a gift, this is where you should buy it.”
Second Answer: In an age of information technology, the internet, computers, online shopping, and those of us who are either modern or last-minute folks, you have a few options. You can:
- pass the information around traditionally through your people at the bridal shower.
- Post the information on your wedding website & have a website card enclosed in your invitation suite
- (for the last-minute folks) insert a registry card into your invitation suite.
Now I WILL say this, as a professional, I will ALWAYS advise that my couples take the more traditional route or post the information into their wedding website. That way, it doesn’t seem like you’re only inviting guests because you’re expecting something, but because you want them to share in one of the most important moments of your life. Please remember though, you know your guests better than I would.
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